Jennie passed away on january 8th. She struggled for almost 2 years with stage 4 lungcancer.
I was with her online untill she took her last breath.
Its so strange everything.
We have been talking every day for several years. We could talk about absolutely everything. We talked politic, religion, emotions, relationsships, news, music, movies, writing, art, natur, ya absolutely everything. There was no tabun, non at all.
We shared our lifes stories.
She told me about her childhood with a lot of abuse in foster care. About this terrible Maizell women that hit her hard everyday with a bat, forced her to steal, forced her to stay still in the basement. That made her so afraid of not getting food that she did everything she was told to do. She was going through hell. She run away and came in to another place where she met our common friend, that friend that broth us together. There she, and our friend, was sexually abused. She was able to run away after over a year, Our friend got stuck in there for many more years. They met again when matur and established a good warm friendship. But both of them was scared inside, badly scared.
Jeannie went through a lot of long bad periods in time. To be a lesbian was hard, she got beet up for no reason, she and her girlfriend was kicked out on the streat. Things that is so hard to even try to understand for me. She was also a victim of Hurican Andrew, and that scared her alot. She talked about life before and after Andrew. I can not even try to understand how it is to go through something like that. She was strong, she was warm, she was caring, she was stubborn, she was amazing, she was Jeannie and she was my soulmate. I have never talked to another women in the way I talked to her. We were far far away from each other in real life, and non of us could take a plain and cross the Atlantic ocean. But, we were closer than many people ever get.
To have this kind of friendship is a gift on so many levels. Its a blessing to be able to talk to someone about so many deep things in life. Someone to laugh with and someone to cry together with.
When Jeannie got sick, I was with her every day. Even when she had the worst day ever I was with her online. We chatted on different apps. All depending on were she was. On hospital we had to often use Messanger, she didnt like that but we still did it cause she wanted me with her. She told docs and nurses,, this is my BFF from Sweden and she showed me to them and they chit chatted with me. When she talked to doc she always said, Now you have to think about that my BFF have to be with us to take notes. And I did.
Gosh I have so many notes, so many papers, so many things from her cancer journey that I havent been able to get ride of yet. I know I have to some day, cause it will be my way to take a step forward. I know she is still with me cause there was things she said she would do when she passed away and I have seen some of it. One little thing was that people around me was suppose to start talking about betting. I never bet, I dont like it, and what happend.. Yes, the first one was one of our friends online, she suddenly say, You wanne bet,,,, and I got gosebumps…. and after that it have appered several times.
When my friends and I see each other online we usually end our lives around 11 – 11.30 pm my time. Several times now my b-pap machine have started around 11 pm… why,,, well I think its Jeannie telling me,, hey Swede its time to go to bed.
I like those small things, cause I miss her so much. Its empty. So very very empty.